Readers, sorry for the interruption in your regularly scheduled AMG programming.
My father died at the end of June, and we buried him yesterday.
Although his death came at the end of a long illness, I find myself heartbroken and bereft of ready insight.
I do have three questions, though, that I’d love to hear you all reflect on.
Do you have concrete goals for your life and a plan of how to achieve them?
As one of my sisters was eulogizing Dad, she made an important observation: that he was a man who planned his life. Many of the good things that came to him did not arrive by accident. He carefully planned his goals, checked and rechecked his progress, adjusted plans, and realized many of them.
I too am a planner by nature, but his death makes me want to live life with more care and forethought.
Dad was a terrific mentor of young men. The LDS Church gave him tremendous opportunities to mentor, and he touched many lives in that way. I know he taught—harangued, hectored–many young Mormon men to sit down and map out their goals and plan how to achieve them.
I get the sense that a lot of young women aren’t being taught to sit down and map out a life plan, including financial, education, and spiritual goals and a plan for achieving them. I see it too in full-grown and older women. I know that life often does not go according to plan, and that much depends upon privilege—economic, gender, racial—for reaching desired life outcomes. Still, I’m wondering if anyone is sitting down with young women these days and saying, “Who you are is up to you. What plans are you making to make your life happen?”
Did anyone teach you to plan? Are you teaching your kids to plan?
Taking this to a larger scale, I’ve also been reflecting on the state of Mormon feminism. As a movement, we are stronger than ever, but I think somewhere in the swirl of Facebook posts we lose sight of the need to own this movement and its agenda. That will take planning. And execution. So here’s a third question, for those of you invested in Mormon feminism—as I know many AMG readers are:
If you could set goals for Mormon feminism and a plan for how to achieve them, what would they be?
Three questions, readers. I’m listening. With a broken heart.
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